4 thoughts on “the veil of secrecy

  1. Honestly? When I have an erection, my anus clenches up tight, so, yeah, I can’t bottom, and really anal doesn’t turn me on anyway. However, my big pleasure spot is under my foreskin, but especially my frenulum.

    Sometimes I think the “male G-spot” is only a thing because cut guys are a bit fragile about that, and, you know, self-esteem sometimes demands denial.

    Plus, during the 70s and 80s, gay male culture moved from being a relative smorgasbord of sex acts (with anal actually considered “weird”) to emphasizing anal to the exclusion of other acts. Thing is, it’s difficult to make it specifically a male act; women have buttholes as well, and a specifically male act would require both partners be male. And women, generally, don’t like anal. So they invented a fiction that says men like me who can’t bottom, and I’m too big to be a top (My penis is ten and a half inches. Now, look at how long the average anus is.), simply don’t exist. (Of course, my sexual experience is with both sexes, so I don’t exist there either.)

    Be glad you’re British. Even before That Thing In The White House, American politics were bizarre.

  2. I have undergome a prostate operation. The surgeon removed only a part of the prostate. But as he then warn me, I can have an orgasm but no ejeculation; and even so orgasms are not as easy as before surgery. I have not been able ever since to massage my prostate. Is it still possible? I must say I still enjoy anal penetration. What is your info/advice?

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