I am 21 years old and I am what you might call, bi curious. I have only admitted that I was questioning my own sexuality to one person, and it was someone I didn’t know. This is the second time I am admitting it. A question I really want to ask you guys is this. How do I know if I’m gay. Here are my symptoms:

1) I enjoy anal stimulation from my girlfriend and from myself

2) I jerk off to gay porn, but only bondage or kinky stuff.

3) I have fantasized about being pleased by other males that I know in real life, or males that I dont know..

I think my family and friends might know i’m gay, but I can’t admit it and the fact that they MIGHT know makes me lose my breath…I find it humiliating...I need someone to talk to about this, hopefully someone who has been in the same situation or something close to it please leave a message. Thank you for running this site !


I had the same stuggles as a young man and had a lot of guilt and shame because of society pressure. I couldn’t stop being with other men once I had been with another man. My true happiness and fulfillment came once I accepted it and embraced my homosexuality. Be true to yourself and not comform to false ideas of heterosexual lifestyle.


It sounds to me like you are into guys but you really won’t know for sure until you have sex with one. If having a man’s face and possibly cock up your ass doesn’t make your eyes go back in your head and make you feel as if you’d never had sex before, then you might not be gay! But if it does… BINGO! Then you’re a certified cock sucker. Be proud of it. Seriously. You can’t change it. Believe me, I’ve tried. I got married, had kids, stayed away from gyms and men in general. But no matter what I couldn’t run away from the truth. After 14 years, dick finally drew me in and once I had a taste, that was it. You can’t deny who you are and you SHOULDN’T deny it! Find the truth and you’ll find happiness. Find a gay friend to fuck with and see! 


It’s not about gay, straight or bi, it’s about male sexuality. I don’t have gay sex, I have guy sex. Only a guy can fully understand what another guy needs and feels. I enjoy giving that intense pleasure to other guys and them giving it to me. It is an amazing gift I am happy to share. 


If you have fantasies about being with other men, that doesn’t mean you’re completely gay. You might be bi, or you might be bi-curious. I am without a doubt bisexual. I way prefer men over women, but I only consider myself bi because I have had sex with girls in the past.


19 thoughts on “How Do I Know?

  1. I agree with others here I love women but I enjoy cock too love the feeling of being taken and to suck cock I am a cum addict either from the source or second hand from her pussy it’s not so much how he looks but whether his cock is a turn on

  2. Dont ask dont tell dont question yourself
    Just act live love as you please and forget right after … do you think St8 that act as such with women question themselves about ?
    Why should you ?

  3. Not to change the the subject (although if the young man man only falls in love with and has relationships with women, I’d “classify” him as straight– not that labels really mean anything), but regarding the top photo– a picture says a thousand words, or can create a thousand fantasies.

    1. A lot of guys are bi curious i found quite few in saunas at college that wanted to see what it was like .. an excuse a first step ? I dunno ! It was a nice experience for me and hopefully for ´em too .. u r adult u decide !

  4. So you’re 21. I was 23 when I got married. This was before the internet, before being gay was acceptable. By the age of 23 I had a lot of heterosexual encounters. I knew I really liked fucking women, eating pussy..I could cum multiple time a night and not get tired of eating and fucking pussy. But when in NYC, in Greenwhich Village, I had the opportunity to see gay porn magazine. I bought my first one at 20, it was a publication called First Hand, it was small enough to hide inside the pages of a standard size sports magazine and I would read it in the park, or on the subway..it was accounts of men’s first time having sex with other men. It made me hard as a rock. I bought it because seeing muscular good looking macho men on the cover of gay porn magazines made me aroused. When good looking men with prominent bulges gave me a double take on the street, I got hard. When I was in the gym, showering, I would sneak peeks at other guy’s dicks because I wanted to touch one and feel another man. Something about me made me interested in men as sex objects. I was 21 when I got my first blowjob from a man. He was about my age, on the subway late at night, as was I, and we were alone in the train car. He would look at me and rub his crotch as he sat with his legs spread. I was wearing nylon shorts and a T-shirt. I knew he was coming on to me and I wanted him to. I gathered up all my courage and went to stand in from of him, holding onto the rail above his head, the extension of my arms causing my shirt to ride up, exposing my abdomen and hair. He reached up and grab my half hard dick through my nylon shorts, no underwear. I was hard instantly. He took my cock out and into his mouth. I had been sucked many times by girls my age, but having a guy’s mouth engulf my entire dick made my head as well as my cock explode. I came instantly and he gulped and kept sucking until we pulled into the next stop. As soon as the doors chimed and opened I jumped out, desperate to get away from what I did..from what it meant.
    Was I gay? No because I was a certified heterosexual. But I sneaked-read gay porn and jerked off to it. I willingly let a man suck my cock on a train and couldn’t even control my instant pleasure. Was I gay? Almost 40 years late I still don’t know. I have had hundreds of sexual encounters with men – 2 so far this week. But I don’t feel emotional about men. I fall in love with women. I like sex with my wife, but it’s different than having sex with men. I feel closer and warmer after sex with my wife. It feels good. I can bask in that afterglow for hours. After I fuck a man’s ass or mouth, I put the gay me away, I don’t think about men for days, until I get horny again, and sometimes I try real hard to stop.
    I am friendly with gay men and know many in my profession, but they are annoying as fuck, the younger they are the more annoying their culture is. Straight men have been emasculated by society, gay young men are practically girls.
    I got married, have kids, I wouldn’t trade a minute of it for all the gold in the world.
    But I live with the fear of being found out. I live with the fear of catching an STD from a strange guy that I hook up with. I live with secret shame and anxiety.
    You are 21 – its a different world. Explore it and decide what you are. Embrace the gay if you are because now its normal. Your family will accept it or they won’t. I know dozens of straight men and women who have no relationships with their families for various reasons – sometimes its inevitable – so don’t let fear of losing them be the reason you don’t explore. Be brave. Be true to yourself before you marry a girl and have kids, because if you come out afterwards, you are impacting their lives, often in a very negative way. You’ll be hurting the people you love more than anything. I couldn’t be that selfish now, to come out and be gay. But I still don’t know If I am gay.

    1. Do not worry how to label yourself .. u need sex with a woman .. go ahed ,it is your male side ,
      U feel having sex with a guy ? It is again your male side .. whatever kind of sex u have , u have your male pulsion, some can play two different keyboards , others just one .. u play the best of two , a male play one only with women and a queen men just the -IMHO- the saddest one .. in fact i cannot judge efeminate it is not my cup of tea ! .. a male looking man is arousing. And is the best hounting game ever !
      Of course u feel uncomfortable to think u might be discovered , a straight person has the same problem with his cheating , and more excused as his manners are more « natural» for the actual society
      We had a great evolution these last 50 years and a lot has to be done .. the day that being gay ,bisex , and male will be accepted as norm in society Will be a great thing for humanity .
      I am in the same position as you are
      But made myself less problems since i were24
      I am over 70 now

  5. About 30 years ago I was in a club called Egypt, there was a married couple who were watching me on the dance floor, the wife I was dancing with was very beautiful who wouldn’t be attracted to, husband very average, afterwards his wife asked what was I doing when the club closes, I went to breakfast and later went home had sex with his wife, he was getting off and shot everywhere, that got him excited by watching me put my big black cock into his wife, afterwards, all said and done ,I got breakfast in which she cooked, then I got a shower and got paid for my services. I believe it was over $500.00 ,she whispered, I couldn’t wait to c u anytime soon, I bumped to the husband Years later at my college graduation in 1984, he told me he wanted me to cum on him, and he get off when someone came on him .later within 6 years later he died from cancer and saw his wife again has sex with her she enjoyed being anal sex in which I gave her the fuck of her life ,she got remarried to a conservative price, I see her ever now and then ,I later had sex with her horny son name Edward, we been in a bathhouse every time he comes when he’s in town he’s horny just like his mom. The only fantasy is I can fuck him while his mom watch .I guess I can imagine can’t i

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